After being married almost seventeen years in May, with God's help, I am convinced that God has a right way to approach marriage and sexual intimacy with our spouse. I have been a student of marriage God's way for some time now, and the Holy Spirit gripped my heart about sexual intimacy between a husband and wife (a man and woman married to each other) today in my evening devotion. According to Hebrews 13:4 KJV, marriage is honorable and the bed is [to be and remain] undefiled (uncontaminated; unperverted; morally clean mentally, phyically, emotionally, spiritually, sexually and in one's heart; free from obscene and obscure tendencies, behavior and thoughts; pure; holy; acts deemed pleasing to God).
However, Hebrews 13:4 has been misinterpreted to mean when you are married, you and your spouse can do, say and think whatever you want as long as there is a mutual consent. And that interpretation of this Scripture is WRONG and offends God. We cannot do, say and think whatever we want, when we want to and how we want to do it AND not think God won't allow consequences for our misunderstanding and misinterpretation of the Scriptures. As a result of improper teaching, assumptions, insight, and proclamation of Hebrews 13:4 many marriages, families and relationships suffer, and husbands and wives fail to embrace their sexuality and one another the way God intended from the beginning (Genesis 1:26-28, 2:18-25, 4:1& 25; Malachi 2:15-16).
When we read Hebrews 13:4 Amplified version, what God purposed for marriage and sexual intimacy between a man and a woman is obvious. It reads, LET MARRIAGE BE HELD IN HONOR (esteemed worthy, precious, of great price, and especially dear) IN ALL THINGS. AND THUS LET THE MARRIAGE BED BE UNDEFILED (kept undishonored); FOR GOD WILL JUDGE AND PUNISH THE UNCHASTE [all guilty of sexual vice] AND ADULTEROUS.
I am telling you the truth. A lot of the things we okay in the bedroom is grieving the Holy Spirit and infuriating the one true God that made sexual intimacy between a husband and a wife. God did not create sexual intimacy between a husbad and wife for gratification alone, but for preserving sanctification of a holy covenant in marriage and the reproducing of godly children in the earth. Many of the acts we have performed or perform on or with our spouse, unfortunately, have been influenced by our past sexual encounters with others, society, today's culture, family members, friends and peers. We have engrafted and have practiced or are practicing immoral, paganistic, and unchaste acts in our marriages.
Many of us are guilty and have been guilty of bringing others into our bedrooms through:
.Pornographic images of people, places and things.
.Lust filled conversations, body language and impressions on the mind and heart.
.Memories of past relationships with other people.
.Temptation.
.Undealt with mindsets and practices.
.The lust of the eye and the lust of the flesh.
.Sexual sins committed, but not yet repented of.
Look! I am not here to condemn anyone, because I, too, have been guilty of this sin. However, what I must do is shine the light on the obscurity hiding out and destroying our marriages, families, finances, relationships, God's vision for marriage and the family, our sexuality and purpose. God has a right way to approach our sexuality, our spouse and sexual intimacy in marriage and it isn't through the world's eye or through a politically correct view. Amen.
As Christian's, especially as Christian's, we are to approach marriage from God's perspective, through His Word and the inner conviction of the Holy Spirit. (We know when what we are doing or thinking or even saying isn't right, because our conscience tells us, but many ignore the right thing to do in order to fulfill the lust within them.) The key to healthy, godly sex is to ask and seek God for godly ways to approach sexual imtimacy in the bedroom with our spouse. He will show us and teach us indestructible ways to enjoy our spouse and sexual intimacy with them.
Intimacy in the bedroom is a time to connect hearts and spirits not just body parts. As you do, something supernatural happens that connects your lives, your hearts; locking you both into God's plan for your marriage.
I myself have been delivered from sexual sins in the bedroom. So, I am not telling you what I don't know to be true. Once you are delivered from these demonic sexual vices, keep the Word of God in sight and fill your heart and sexual organs with it through your personal prayer and devotional time with the Holy Spirit (Psalm 119:11). Cut people, places and things off that have opened up the door of your life to these promiscuous acts of infedelity and immorality (2Corinthians 6:14-18).
Pray and fast often (Matthew 4:1-11; Luke 6:12 and chapters 21:36, 22:45-46). Submit to God. Resist the devil and then he will flee from you. Draw near to God and He will draw near to you (James 4:7-8).
Put on the Lord Jesus Christ and make no provision for the flesh (Romans 13:12-14). Apply the Word of God daily to every area of your life (Joshua 1:8). Confess your sins and be forgiven and be healed (Psalm 51; James 5:16; 1John 1:9). Claim your eyes only for your spouse (Job 31:1). Acknowledge and claim your body for the Lord's use not sins use ( Romans 6; 1Corinthians 6:12-20).
For those married and desiring to be married, ask God to bring your marriage under the divine jurisdiction of justification and sanctification. Yes, we must ask God to sanctify and beautify our marriages by His saving grace. This closes the door to Satan and demonic spirits of perversion from having access to our sexuality, marriages, children, or generations through people, places and things. Don't half step with your marriage. Love and truly like and honor your spouse and the covenant you made with them.
Being married isn't always easy, but IT IS SO WORTH IT!!! It takes mutual respect, humility, patience, prayer for one another and yourself to work out the kinks and through the glitches. I am a witness that you can enjoy your marriage, your spouse and the journey God's way and be fulfilled. Why? Because at the end of the day, GOD is at the core.
Isn't that Good News? Absolutely!
-KINGDOM BUILDING UNITED-
(Promoting the Good News of Jesus Christ around the globe)
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